“At fifteen years old, Denny was diagnosed with a special case of psychosis, blended of a mild form of schizophrenia and bipolar type 1 disease. He has also been declared at his adult screening as a sociopath. And hell, at one time they were even monitoring him for Dissociative Identity Disorder or more known as uh, split personalities”
You would think that my write up would be strictly about Denny, considering the quote above, but this ain’t bouta be a bashing Denny session cuz mental illness or not, Denny is bae. This write up is more so about the dynamic of his relationship with Neeka as a whole.
Codependency is a term that gained popularity in the 50s. Used in the mental health field, codependency was initially used to describe relationships where one of the parties was an addict. A relationship was considered to be codependent when one would overcompensate in “helping” their partner, thereby enabling them and making the addiction worse.
These days, the term codependency can relate to any type of relationship where one party is the giver and the other party is the taker and is not exclusive to those suffering from addiction.
Codependency is typically the result of emotional neglect, family dysfunction, or chronic stress in one’s younger years. When someone has been deprived of love and healthy relationships from an early age, the desire for it tends to outweigh anything else, which is why codependent relationships are characteristic of one's difficulty in loving, accepting, trusting, and being true to self (spacioustherapy.com, 2022).
One could definitely say that Denny and Neeka had a codependent relationship, but what was interesting about their relationship was that their roles of giver and taker switched up quite frequently throughout the story.
So, how exactly did they have a codependent relationship?
1.) They constantly worried about being left
Often times in codependent relationships, one of the parties (in the case, both parties) has an attachment issue in which they’re afraid of being left due to the neglect or dysfunction they endured as children. There were several times throughout the story where they referred to each other as being their “oxygen” and not being able to live or breathe if one were to leave.